Saturday, December 09, 2006

loosing out!!

me you and dupree...
watched this movies 2 days back...
its a time pass movie..nothing great about it..
but a part of it striked a chord somewhere...
loosing your friends...
i have been loosing my friends to a weird enemy..
i cant even call it enemy coz its gud for my friends ...

it has been a few years since I have started observing this phenomenon...
initially i thought its just 1-2 exceptions..
after this happens to my friends ..
those friends who used to call me at all times for all of their probs ..now have cornered me..
and i think maybe in a few years i will be forgetton :(
anyways thats the way life goes...
u make friends not with expectations ...I believe in it but it takes time to accept the fact..
i think everybody wud be able to identify with this phenomenon...
I am talking about marriage...
not mine ..but my friends'
the process begins with their having crush on someone:
before their crush 11:30 pm in the night my phone rings ..
one of my friend's name flashes on screen..
me(promptly picking up with a smile): hello..how r u?
friend (at 11:30 pm calls up): hiii...me fine hw abt u?
guess what ......blah blah blah..
me: oh is it? blah blah blha..
friend: and you know ..today this person came and told me this...
me: is it? i told u so...
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friend: tell me what can i do now?
me(in advisory avtar): i think u should talk to......and .....
and .......
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friend: blah blah
me:blah blah
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45 min later...
friend: chal c ya...
me: okie bye, c ya , gud nite

months later
me in a sad mood due to soem reason dial my friend's number
friend: hello , how r u
me: hi...how r u....blah blah
friend: is it? blah blah
me: u knwo what.......what do u think...
friend: blah blah blahh
me:blah blah
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45 min later...
friend: chal c ya...
me: okie bye, c ya , gud nite

6 months later- friend got a crush
me(thinking ): yeh dhakkn kahan busy hai ..kuch khabar nahin hai itne dino se
dial up friends number
friend:hi
me:helllo kahan ho bhai?
friend: nahin yaar just got busy..
me: okie...so howz work and life..
friend:its ok..guess what
me: what what?
friend: thers this person in my office/ college i like a lot nowadays..
she/he is pretty cool ...blah blah
me: hmm thats interesting.....gud...blah blah
friend: i was thinking of going for a coffee with him/her....what do u say:
me:sure u should...
friend:what do u suggest....blah blah..
me: blah blah...
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25min later...
friend: chal c ya...got to go early 2mrw
me: okie bye, c ya , gud nite

2-3 months later : crush transformed to gf/bf
me(thinking again)
wherz this dhakkan!!! dials up my friend's number...
friend:hi
me:helllo kahan ho bhai?
friend: nahin yaar just got busy..
me: okie...so howz work and life..
friend:its ok..guess what
me: what what?
friend: thers this person I told u about na..we are together now
she/he is pretty cool ...blah blah
me: vow thats great.. i am glad for u...blah blah
friend:he/she has plans..to do further studies/getting a transfer ..i am planning to take a transfer ....what do u suggest....blah blah..
me: blah blah...
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15min later...
friend: chal c ya...got to go early 2mrw
me: okie bye, c ya , gud nite


6 months later : friend got engaged
me(thinking again)
wherz this dhakkan!!! dials up my friend's number...
friend:hi
me:helllo kahan ho bhai?
friend: nahin yaar just got busy..
me: okie...so howz work and life..
friend:its ok..hey me got engaged last week
me: what? vow thats great yaar..to whom? her/him?
friend: yeah ...
me:ohh thats why u have been busy..
frined: haan yaar had some matters to resolve ....her/his family...my family....
me: okie... chalo all thats done..congrats..... i am glad for u...blah blah..
friend:he/she has plans..to do further studies/getting a transfer ..i am planning to take a transfer ....what do u suggest....blah blah..
me: blah blah...
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3 min later...
friend: chal c ya...got to go early 2mrw
me: okie bye, c ya , gud nite

1 month later
me - chekcing my orkut scraps...suddenly see the friends name in recently logged in list...
jump to scrap book and type in caps: WHERE ARE YOU??
go back and check the profile of friend(aloud staring at the screen): What!!!!!!!!!!!
rubbing my eyes again ..refreshing the screen ...
aloud: cant believe it!!! when did this happened(friend's status changed to married)
go back to his/her scrap book again: when did u got married??
dint even bother to inform me???
my scrap book: i tried alling your number but cudnt get through ... has ur number changed...
me in his/her scrap book: my number is not changed(i have given my number at least twice to this person...)...
.................
this is how it ends..
the events happen in variety of ways: calls may be replace by letters/ mail/ chat...
but the essence is always same....

7 comments:

  1. Hey, thats bad yaar... I dont know why people cant balance friends and lovers... When these lovers are gone, they come back to their friends...

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  2. @ bul: I know...but I hope they dont have to come back to me for this reason...

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  3. Nice post actually...hehehe!! :)
    U have already told me this before also but it was nice to read the post! Let me see how much do you contact your frnds(not me ofcourse) after u getting married..!

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  5. next one should be about the job!

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  7. :)
    dont make friends with expectations..
    and dont make expectations your friends too !

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